Greater Sacramento Area LGBTQ+ Male Massage Therapist
2224 Loma Vista Drive. Sacramento, CA 95825
By Appointment Only
Closed on Wednesdays
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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This is YOUR session. Speak up!
Why is this so important?
If you want anything changed: pressure, areas worked, position or if you are too hot or too cold ... speak up!
Don't worry, you will not hurt my feelings by asking for something that will make you more comfortable. I want this to be the best experience for you to relax and enjoy. The last situation I'd want is for you to leave the session wishing you would have spoke up about something.
Also, what you requested in one session may be different in another. If you had a full body massage last time you had a session, but this time you only want your back/neck/shoulders/arms worked, it's perfectly fine to ask.
You will enjoy your sessions so much more!
Why do you specialize in "Plus Size Bodywork?" And what exactly does that mean?
Thank you for asking! I specialize in Plus Size Bodywork because while most of us may have insecurity about our bodies, larger people additionally have to deal with the public stigma and shame that accompany the internal feelings of not having the "perfect body." Big people are discriminated against in almost every facet of society: Employment, Housing, Family Dynamics, Social Media, Fashion, Entertainment, Sports, and Politics are just a few of the industries that unfairly judge big people. Everyone knows this and sees this, probably on a daily basis.
Plus Size Bodywork is a phrase I came up with. "Plus Size" refers to anyone who feels that they identify with being a larger person. "Bodywork" is an umbrella term that can usually be substituted for "massage." I use the term "bodywork" because my work is much more than just massage.
Being a larger person myself, I have a passion for working with plus size people to help them with their health and wellness, whether it requires very specific pain-relief based therapy or mental relaxation from the stressors of life, I want them to know that Q's Massage Studio is a safe space for them to feel comfortable, and not only tolerated or accepted, but welcomed with an open heart and an open mind.
I'm a large person, and am a little insecure about about body.
You're exactly the person I want to see! I can understand being hesitant about getting a massage. Being a larger person myself, I will do whatever I can to help you feel comfortable on my table. My Custom Craftworks table has a dynamic weight capacity of 650 lbs, so be rest assured that your comfort will be my utmost priority. Lastly, you always get to choose which areas for me to work on, and you get to choose your level of undress. If you want to keep all of your clothes on, I highly recommend trying my stretch massage (Thai Massage).
What should I expect during my first massage therapy visit?
First, I will begin by asking you general questions to establish what areas you would like worked on, if there are any conditions needing to be addressed, and to determine if massage is appropriate for you. This is what we in the industry call a "verbal intake." I may perform certain assessments and testing to evaluate your condition and to see if you have any presenting complaints.
Do I have to be completely undressed?
You should undress to the level you are comfortable. For a full body massage, most get completely undressed. However, if you will be more comfortable during the session if you leave your underwear on, that's fine. I will work around the clothes you leave on as best as I can. If removing all your clothes makes you too nervous and unable to relax, then you are not getting the optimal benefit from the session. I will give you privacy to undress and get comfortable on the table.
If you prefer to stay fully clothed, then I recommend you try my Thai Massage :)
Do I have to cover myself with a sheet or towel?
This is known as draping and depends on the therapist and in some cases, the law. The vast majority of therapists will insist on draping. Once you are undressed and on the table under the drape, I will only uncover the part of your body being worked on.
What do I do during a massage treatment?
Make yourself comfortable, and KEEP BREATHING. Sometimes clients will hold their breath when I'm doing deeper work. If I want you to adjust your position, I will either move you or will ask you to move what is needed. Otherwise, change your position anytime to make yourself more comfortable. Many people close their eyes and relax completely during a session, while others prefer to talk. It's up to you. It is your massage, and whatever feels natural to you is the best way to relax. Do not hesitate to ask questions at any time.
How long will a massage treatment last?
The average full-body massage treatment lasts approximately one hour. Many people (including myself) prefer a 90-minute session for optimal, full body relaxation. Always allow relaxation time prior to and after the session.
Will the massage hurt?
This depends on the type of massage and the depth of the strokes. A light, relaxing massage that doesn't probe very deep into the muscles, shouldn't hurt. With that being said, there is a 'feels good' hurt and an 'ouch, stop it' hurt. A good massage, even a really deep tissue massage, should always stay in the 'feels good' hurt range.
Pain can be an indication that the muscle is possibly injured or inflamed and pressure should be adjusted. Also, pain can cause you to tighten up and negate the relaxing effects of the massage. The most effective and deepest massage always works with your body's natural response, not against it.
How often should I get a massage?
"Some is better than none."
What does that mean? Well, it varies from person to person. If you are just looking for some occasional relaxation, then a session every month may be fine for you. However, if you are looking to address a specific condition, then it is recommended to go more frequently at first and then slowly taper down to a maintenance schedule. Frequency of sessions should be discussed with me after your treatment when I have a better hands-on understanding of your particular muscular issues.
Can I talk during my session?
Sure, if you'd like to talk go right ahead. The important thing to remember is that this treatment is all about you relaxing and enjoying the experience. Many therapists discourage talking in hopes that you will relax, let your mind float free and enter a state of massage bliss. In many instances, people may feel more relaxed starting off talking, and as the massage progresses, enter quiet states of relaxation.
The important issue here is that there are times when you need to speak up. If I'm doing anything to make you uncomfortable, you should let me know immediately. Also, let me know if you get too warm or too cold, if the room is too bright, or if the pressure needs to be changed (lighter or deeper). If something is not working for you - speak up! It's OK!
Do I have to listen to whale calls or flutes during my massage?
No. (Not that there's anything wrong with that.)
While many therapists play slower, quieter, 'new age' type music, you can choose to have different music or no music at all.
I don't care what we listen to! I typically use Spotify, so just ask for a band or genre that you're interested in, and I'll gladly switch to that. I typically listen to downtempo artists like Desert Dwellers, Carbon Based Lifeforms, Solar Fields, and Blackmill.
How will I feel after my massage treatment?
Most people feel very relaxed. Some experience a significant decrease or freedom from long-term aches and pains. Many feel a little slowed down for a short period and then notice an increase of energy, heightened awareness and increased productivity which can last for days.
If you received a deep massage, you may be slightly sore the next day - much like a good workout at the gym. Sometimes a hot shower, or a soak in the tub can ease this soreness.
After your session you should increase your water intake a bit. Just a glass or two more than normal is usually fine. This helps keep your body's tissues hydrated and healthy.
When should I not get a massage?
In my opinion there are few conditions which would prevent you from enjoying massage. You should not book a massage if you have a fever, cold/flu, or contagious skin infection. That's it.
There are many other conditions in which I may need to adapt my techniques (i.e. arthritis) or avoid an area completely (i.e. cuts, burns, or a stint). With some conditions it is a good idea to get an approval from your physician before you receive massage (cancer, certain heart conditions, pregnancy). This doesn't mean you can't get massage. But it's always better to err on the side of caution.
I can advise you about your specific needs.
What if I get an erection during my massage?
Sometimes it happens. Yet, most men avoid massage for fear this will happen to them. Or, they get a massage but are unable to relax because of this fear. But there is no reason to be embarrassed.
Sometimes men get an erection during a non-sexual, therapeutic, full body massage. Touch administered to any part of the body can activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which can result in a partial or complete erection.
An educated, professional massage therapist understands this and it will not be an issue for them. If you are still concerned, I recommend wearing more fitted underwear (briefs or boxer briefs) which provide more support than traditional boxers.
Note: If I feel that the session has turned sexual, I may stop the session to clarify your intent, and may decide to end the session immediately. In this case, you will be required to still pay the full price of the session.